About
In The Search Bar is a self-guided library created by Priscilla Zorrilla to help people reconnect with themselves, build self-trust, and end self-abandonment.
About this work
Most of us who override ourselves in favor of approval, safety, or belonging don't notice it. It doesn't feel dramatic or wrong. It feels normal.
This work names that pattern: how self-abandonment forms, why it becomes automatic, and what a clear alternative looks like, centered on self-trust and inner authority.
Why this work exists
People aren't here because they want to "stop caring what others think." They're here because something inside feels off, a noticeable tension, a sense of prioritizing external comfort over what feels true.
This work explores that tension without judgment and gives language to what many of us feel but can't yet name.
What this work helps you do
This is a body of writing and resources about recognizing approval-seeking and self-override, understanding how patterns form, reclaiming a relationship with your inner reference point, learning how to make choices from you first, and practicing self-trust rather than performance.
Each piece in the Library is meant to help you see what's happening, not fix you. Over time, that clarity becomes practice.
What makes In The Search Bar different
In The Search Bar is rooted in lived experience. It comes from walking through self-abandonment and learning how to return to myself from the inside out.
It's an invitation to understand the architecture of your inner experience so you can respond with awareness, presence, and self-trust.
Everything here is shaped by what I've practiced in my own life and now offer to others. You won't find clinical observations here. These are real, lived lessons. Honest inner work, grounded in deep respect for the human experience.
How we work
In The Search Bar witnesses the patterns of self-abandonment through grounded observation. You're not here to be told what to do. You're here to recognize yourself—your patterns, your armor, your capacity for change—so you can choose differently.
I don't teach you how to abandon yourself less. I help you notice that you're doing it. The rest unfolds from there.
A good place to start
Some people arrive here after reading an article. Others find this page first. If you'd like to begin with context, these essays are central to the work:
About the author
This work was created by author and coach Priscilla Zorrilla. It's grounded in observation of lived experience and a strong desire to help people shift from self-abandonment to self-loyalty.
After nearly two decades in a traditional career, she stepped out of the 9–5 without a perfectly defined plan. What followed was a deeper commitment to the inner work she had already been doing, the decade-long process that taught her how to stop overriding herself and live in her truth. This was the inspiration that birthed In The Search Bar.
Through articles, guided resources, and experiential frameworks, Priscilla helps people notice where they've been adapting or people-pleasing and begin choosing themselves instead. Her perspective is grounded in lived experience and a deep respect for the complexity of human nature.
Her vision is to change how people understand and relate to themselves by giving language to self-abandonment and establishing self-loyalty as a recognized and sought-after way of living.
This work contributes to a cultural shift where self-betrayal is no longer normalized and self-trust becomes the baseline.